As I pondered the question of what I could do more of, self-care seemed to come to mind as more of a need and something I could and should do more of… Self-care is often discussed, but many of us struggle to translate the concept into concrete, practical actions in our daily life. This question, “What could I do more of?” resonates now as a desire to find a fulfilling approach to caring for myself… In mind, body, and spirit.

The first step in self-care was explained to me before by a counselor friend, that step is self-awareness. I suppose I find it hard to focus on myself, although with age I seem to find the task a bit more necessary. Tuning in to how you feel physically, emotionally, and mentally seems to be a silly task, or so my ole’ woman mind reverberates. As a mother, widow, grandmother, great grandmother, sister, matriarch of the family, and caretaker for many, taking time for myself has fallen to the wayside often.

 Asking myself questions like: How am I feeling? What do I need today? Instead of asking what others need, what I must do for them is an alien concept that makes me feel guilty at times. But by practicing mindfulness and self-reflection, you can better understand what areas of your life need more attention.

Many people, me included,  underestimate the power of rest, I have always been a piddler, constantly in motion, and I feel guilty if I get nothing done in a day. But I am learning that it is not always necessary and have spent the last year decluttering my house to find peace and to do less and enjoy more.

Give yourself permission to do more of what brings you joy, whether that’s reading, gardening, crafting, or listening to music. These activities are not frivolous—they are essential to maintaining a balanced life.

Self-care isn’t just about taking action, it’s also about how you treat yourself internally. Notice your inner dialogue and practice speaking to yourself with more compassion, encouragement, and patience. Replace self-criticism with understanding and self-support.

Self-care, just like life, is a journey, not a destination. By asking yourself, “What could I do more of?” you’re taking a powerful step toward greater well-being. Consider making boundaries part of your journey, they seem more important as I grow older.

Use these suggestions as inspiration and remember, small, consistent changes can have a profound impact on your life. The most important thing is to treat yourself with the same care and respect you offer to others. This struggle is real, or so I feel for most women, but so necessary as we age.