Ramblings on the personality traits of humans…

When considering human personality traits, we usually have certain ones that can catch our attention in ways that give us pause. For myself, one such trait is a consistent lack of empathy. The ability—or willingness—to understand and share the feelings of others forms the bedrock of meaningful relationships and a harmonious community. When someone seems indifferent to the joys or sorrows, the pain and struggle, and the joy and happiness of those around them, it can signal a disconnect that may lead to misunderstandings, or, in difficult cases, even harm. Sadly, this is one trait that seems to be finding itself at the peril of being less evident in the world.  I am a person who feels the weight of people’s energy, their heaviness, their light, and for me this is one thing I consider necessary to truly bond with people. It is the one trait I feel most adamant about. I feel it is necessary to live life as I choose to, and because of the way God made me. He made me sensitive to others, an empath that feels them.

Another trait that raises a red flag is chronic dishonesty, LIES, UNTRUTHS. Truthfulness is the foundation upon which trust is built, and trust, in turn, is essential in my  life journey. Just as Jesus stated in John 14:6 “I am  the way, and the truth, and the life, no one comes to the Father except through me.” When someone frequently distorts the truth, whether through omission or fabrication, it creates a fog of uncertainty, a heaviness in my heart and soul. It makes it painful to be around them, to not trust them causes a rift in my heart, my soul. With this trait it seems impossible to feel any true connection to someone. It causes heartache and at times a wretched reality that makes life seem too heavy to bear. Truth is so much lighter even when it hurts.

While we are all subject to flaws, we all know no one is perfect, a single trait does not define a whole person. The beauty of human nature lies in its complexity and capacity for growth. But when a pattern of behavior consistently undermines trust and empathy, it’s wise for me to pay attention. While I try not to judge, I still must protect my heart, and my soul for my own well-being. Boundaries are important for living a life that is not just lived but lived well. When you see  the red flags, feel them, take notice. It is easy to excuse people for their indiscretions; it is easy to just ignore the red flags and continue on. It is self-respect and care to see them and choose to leave them behind in order to give yourself the peace of spirit you deserve. Choose wisely those who travel with you… for you do not travel alone.