October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month—a time when we are asked not only to recognize and honor the survivors of abuse, but also to create space for difficult truths, conversations, and healing. As we move through life, each of us carries things inside: stories, scars, secrets, and burdens that most people never see. Many of these burdens are deeply personal, shaped by experiences that fill us with shame or make us question our own worth.

In a world more connected than ever, where we share so much of our lives online and in conversation, it’s striking how certain secrets persist. How the pain of domestic violence so often remains hidden. Abuse is not always visible. Physical wounds may heal, but the toll of emotional and psychological abuse runs deeper and often leaves no outward scars. These internal battles can be even more isolating, as survivors struggle with the weight of self-blame and shame.

For many, the cycle of abuse is wrapped in silence. There is shame in telling the truth, and fear of not being believed or of being blamed. It is common for survivors to carry guilt, wondering if they somehow caused or deserved the pain inflicted on them. The perpetrators of abuse often manipulate this vulnerability, layering mental and verbal wounds on top of physical harm, eroding self-confidence and hope.

When abuse is hidden behind closed doors and cloaked in secrecy, it becomes easy for society to look away. Friends, family, and even strangers might miss the signs or avoid uncomfortable conversations. This silence allows suffering to continue unchecked. The shame and stigma that surround domestic violence do not belong to the survivor, they are unjust burdens created by misunderstanding and fear. There is a heavy cost for the silence of abuse and a deep need for awareness.

Domestic Violence Awareness Month reminds us to break these cycles of silence. We are called to listen without judgment, to learn the signs, and to speak out on behalf of those who cannot yet find their voice. Awareness is the first step toward compassion, support, and change.

The journey to healing begins when survivors see that they are not alone, that their stories matter, and that the shame they feel does not define them. I have been a victim of Domestic Violence. I have survived it and thrived through it to continue onward in this life. In the past, it was very polarizing and there was little help for those who suffered from domestic violence. I was fortunate enough, blessed enough two years ago to be included in a platform to write about my experiences, to share my journey of how I became a ThriveHER. I wrote about my experience in an anthology which was published last year. “The Blueprint of a ThriveHER” by someone so special to me, Dr. Sonya A McKinzie, a sister in heart and soul. I and 11 other ladies shared our struggles and our strength in hope of helping others find their voice and strength.

By sharing our own truths and carrying each other’s burdens, we created a community where secrets lose their power and healing can begin. In this month of awareness, let’s honor those who carry invisible wounds and renew our commitment to support, believe, and uplift all who have suffered from domestic violence.

If you need HELP, these are options for you to use… THERE IS HELP, Asing for it is a strength, not a weakness,

• National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (thehotline.org)
• National Coalition Against Domestic Violence: ncadv.org
• Local shelters and counseling services: Reach out to local organizations for confidential help and support.

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, please remember that help is available and you are not alone. This October, and every month, may we walk with more compassion and understanding for the burdens we all carry inside.