Rambling on about Advice and Its Lasting Impact…

Growing up, many of us are fortunate to be surrounded by family members who care deeply about our well-being and development. For me, a childhood enriched by the presence of grandparents, parents, uncles, and aunts meant living in a world where advice was abundant and stories were shared often. In those days, it seemed we were more social, gathering regularly to listen and learn from those who had traveled further down the path of life. Respect for our elders came naturally, not just because they were older, but because they embodied the kind of people we aspired to become.

Advice, as I learned, is not always delivered in dramatic, life-altering speeches. Sometimes it comes in the form of a gentle nudge, a shared anecdote, or a simple remark over dinner. These pieces of wisdom were woven into the fabric of everyday life, offered not as commands, but as gifts. As a child, I may not have always understood the depth or meaning of these lessons, but they found a place in my mind, waiting for the right moment to resurface.

Looking back, I realize that most of the guidance I received was not about what to do in a specific situation, but about how to approach life itself. My family taught me values like kindness, perseverance, and humility. They encouraged me to think before acting, to listen more than I speak, and to treat others with respect. These lessons have become anchors, helping me navigate uncertainty and adversity.

“Always treat people the way you want to be treated.” This classic advice fostered empathy and understanding, shaping the way I interact with others.

“Don’t be afraid to ask for help.” My grandparents reminded me that vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness.

“Take your time making big decisions.” Patience, they said, is often rewarded with clarity and better outcomes.

“Learn from your mistakes.” The importance of reflection and growth was emphasized by everyone in my family.

“Enjoy the present, but plan for the future.” This balance between savoring life and preparing for what’s ahead has proven invaluable.

As I’ve grown older and, hopefully, a bit wiser myself, I’ve come to appreciate just how precious and true those lessons were. There are moments when I feel lost, stuck, or uncertain, and it’s in those times that the advice of my childhood sneaks up from a dark corner of my mind, offering reassurance and guidance. These reminders are more than memories; they are the foundation upon which I build my decisions, relationships, and outlook on life.

When I read this question today I pondered it for a bit and realized that at this point in my life the advice I find the “best I have ever received” is this… “Be aware of what is going on around you, not everyone will always be what they seem or have your best interest at heart, always think before you do.” Sadly, this advice at this stage of life in this world of today has become a almost a mantra for me.  Advice is a gift that keeps giving, often in ways we don’t expect. The wisdom imparted to me by my family has shaped who I am and continues to influence me every day.  I try and pass this along to my kids, grandkids, and those I meet who are in need or searching for some form of help in the changing times and world.  After all, the stories and guidance that shaped us are meant to be passed on, ensuring that wisdom is never lost, but continually renewed.